Attachment Style Theories

Attachment style theories are a body of research that explores the ways in which our early relationships with caregivers shape our emotional and behavioural development. There are three main attachment styles: secure, avoidant, and ambivalent.

Secure attachment is characterised by feelings of comfort and security when interacting with one’s caregiver. These individuals tend to have positive relationships with others, as they are comfortable trusting and depending on others.

Avoidant attachment is characterised by feelings of lack of comfort or security in relationships. These individuals often avoid emotional closeness and tend to be uncomfortable depending on others.

Ambivalent attachment is characterised by feelings of discomfort and insecurity when interacting with one’s caregiver. These individuals often have difficulty forming secure attachments with others, as they tend to be clingy and overly dependent on their partners.

There are a number of factors that can influence attachment styles, including genetics, early childhood experiences, and social learning. Understanding these different attachment styles can help us better understand our own relationships as well as those of the people around us. Whether we are secure, avoidant, or ambivalent in our attachments, it is important to recognise the different ways in which we interact with others and how those interactions can impact both our own well-being and that of those around us.

One of the key attachment styles that has been studied extensively is secure attachment. People with secure attachments tend to have positive, trusting relationships with others, and are comfortable depending on their partners for support when needed. They also tend to be more open in their communication styles, and are more likely to share their thoughts and feelings honestly with those around them.

On the other hand, people with avoidant attachments tend to be much more closed off in their interactions. They may not feel comfortable depending on others for support, or opening up to those around them about their thoughts and feelings. Instead, they often prefer to keep things to themselves, or maintain relationships from a distance.

Finally, people with Ambivalent attachments tend to be somewhat in-between secure and avoidant attachment styles. They may have some characteristics of both, such as feeling comfortable depending on others for support at times, while still being reluctant or uncomfortable doing so at other times.

So if you’re looking to better understand your own attachment style and how it might impact your relationships and emotional well-being, it’s important to take some time to explore the different attachment styles that have been identified by researchers. Whether you identify as secure, avoidant, or ambivalent, understanding your own attachment style can help you better understand yourself and all of the unique qualities that make you who you are.​